I spent some time noodling on the idea of JOY VS HAPPINESS. While happiness is fleeting and based on circumstances, joy, in my estimation is a state-of-being.
I want more joy in my life. I want to pursue joy in all I do…
In today’s world, we’re often told that the goal is to “be happy.” However, the pursuit of happiness can be fleeting, anchored to temporary pleasures and the highs of emotional experiences. While happiness is undeniably valuable, it’s often transitory and can leave us feeling empty when circumstances shift. Joy, on the other hand, is a deeper, more sustainable state—one rooted in purpose, meaning, and resilience. Unlike happiness, joy doesn’t depend entirely on external factors. Instead, it fosters an enduring sense of well-being that enriches both life and work. Here’s why striving for joy is a superior path as it aligns with our values.
Why Joy is Superior to Happiness
• Joy is More Stable and Resilient
Happiness is often tied to specific outcomes or experiences, making it vulnerable to the ebbs and flows of life. When we rely on achievements, relationships, or material successes to feel happy, we risk disappointment when things don’t go as planned. Joy, however, is more stable because it’s rooted in a deeper sense of purpose and self-acceptance. It allows us to maintain a positive outlook and stay grounded even during challenging times. For me, this means that my energy is always flowing towards purpose-filled-work-and-time-spent.
• Joy Encourages Authenticity
In the pursuit of happiness, people often feel pressured to fit certain molds or fulfill expectations to experience satisfaction. This can lead to choices that aren’t aligned with our true selves, creating a disconnect between who we are and who we think we should be. Joy, by contrast, is a natural result of living authentically, of embracing our unique strengths and values without bending to external pressures. When we prioritize joy, we are free to make decisions that feel true to who we are, enhancing fulfillment in both personal and professional realms. To me, this flows naturally. Having no particular ‘group’ I belong to frees me from any social norms or expectations… not that I ever really matched up anyway…
• Joy is Built on Purpose, Not Pleasure
Happiness can be driven by external pleasures—such as success, validation, or comfort—which, while gratifying, often fade over time. Joy, on the other hand, is more about cultivating a sense of purpose and meaning. It’s tied to something larger than the self, such as helping others, pursuing passions, or making a meaningful impact. By focusing on joy, we invest in long-term, purpose-driven goals rather than short-term gratifications, leading to a more lasting sense of accomplishment and satisfaction. To me, joy is sustainable goal to reach. It’s the overall sense of accomplishment and being-present-in-the-moment in all I do.
• Joy Enhances Emotional Well-being
While happiness tends to fluctuate with circumstances, joy contributes to a stable, fulfilling emotional landscape. It doesn’t mean we won’t face sadness, frustration, or disappointment—these emotions are part of being human. But joy provides a foundation that allows us to navigate them with resilience. It encourages a mindset of gratitude and optimism, making it easier to recover from setbacks and continue moving forward with positivity. In this way, joy supports an overall healthier emotional well-being than the sometimes turbulent pursuit of happiness. To me, the question always is, “Can I be joyful in the endeavors no matter the cost?”
• Joy Drives Productivity and Creativity at Work
Happiness at work can be motivating, but it’s often tied to specific perks or external rewards, like promotions, recognition, or bonuses. These are temporary motivators, and when they’re absent, motivation can falter. Joy, however, is intrinsic; it comes from finding fulfillment in the work itself and aligning with its purpose. Employees and leaders who focus on joy cultivate a positive work culture, fostering creativity, collaboration, and a sense of belonging. This makes workplaces not only more productive but also more sustainable and supportive environments. To me, finding joy in my work is the genesis of this entire post. It’s all I want to be and do. To live in joy… even as frustrating as the realization that I must work-to-experience-joy…
Cultivating Joy as a Lasting Path to Fulfillment
While happiness has its place, its pursuit can be limiting if it’s not grounded in a more substantial foundation. Joy offers a profound, enduring path—one that leads to deeper contentment, resilience, and a fulfilling life. By shifting our focus from the fleeting chase of happiness to the sustainable cultivation of joy, we invite a greater sense of meaning, authenticity, and well-being into our lives and work. In choosing joy, we’re not just seeking a momentary emotional high; we’re embracing a lasting state of being that supports our true values and our fullest potential.
Find your joy.
Never let them steal your joy.
All the best,
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Dr. Alan Schore, a neuroscientists, defines joy as the relational sense that we are glad to be together.
It is the non-verbal sense you get when you see someone who conveys, "I'm glad to be with you."